Empaths have a hard time turning their backs on people. They accept narcissists thinking that their selfishness comes from a place of pain. We wish that this truly was the deal, but with narcissists it’s completely different.
In modern society, a narcissist is perceived as someone who’s deeply in love with him or herself. In psychology, they are defined as someone that has an ‘idealized self image’ which they use to avoid being seen for who they really are. Deep down inside, they feel ugly — no matter how much they don’t admit this.
Empaths try to convince themselves about the “greater good” that lies deep within narcissists, hoping that they can change their ways. And while the empath is doing this, the narcissist is taking full on advantage from them.
They seek special treatment from others. Narcissists expect empaths to cater their every need without returning the favor. The world revolves only around them (at least they think).
It’s a story with a sad ending. The empath doesn’t realize that their kindness is taken for granted and also don’t understand that the narcissist has zero compassion. This is a situation very relatable for empaths, as they tend to fall victims to narcissists before they even know it.
This way, the get exploited by the narcissists. The reason? Well, we can all agree that empaths have a hard way of setting up boundaries for themselves. It’s no secret that narcissists are pathological liars who have a PhD. in deception.
But this is just the beginning of their psychological torment.
This slow yet well planned process makes the narcissist play wounded, which consumes the empath trying to ease them with love and understanding. What happens is that the empath gets too sick of this torment that they look for a situation to escape the clutches of the narcissist.
Can these 2 personalities ever become compatible?
Opposites attract well, but this just isn’t the case with empaths and narcissists. In fact, they will never become compatible and find common ground. The narcissist sucks out the energy of anyone around them, while they ‘paint’ themselves as the victim.
This toxicity is never ending and only drains and wears out the empath. It may take day, weeks, months or even years for the empath to be able to end the relationship with the narcissist. Even when an empath tries to have a conversation with them, they struggle to get their thoughts heard and are often times interrupted.
By ending the relationship, the empath has faced victory. They’ve taken a positive leap forward the path of self-control. The key takeaway is that remaining in a toxic relationship with a narcissist is only going to leave YOU wounded, not them. The physical and mental abuse isn’t worth it, which can hurt your health in the long run.
“There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step which is admitting that they made one.” —J. Kluger